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5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester

5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester

5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester 

 

I receive so many emails from readers telling me about the loss of purpose they feel as their children leave home and become less dependent on them. It makes me ache because I have been there. I want to share with you 5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester.

For all of my empty nest posts: Empty Nest Posts

5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester

 5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester

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Becoming a mother gave me a purpose that I did not have to go looking for. It was immediately clear from the moment I saw those two lines on the pregnancy test what my purpose and calling were. I knew this child was from the Lord and it was my purpose to be his mother.

Then one day I hugged him goodbye in his new college town. I left with the realization that I had 5 years before I would leave all of my children at college. It had not occurred to me before that moment I would one day need to find something else to do besides live in my car dropping off and picking up kids.

I was so overwhelmed with the idea of working my way out of a job and the fear of what I was going to do I decided to write about it. I had heard about “blogging,” although I am not sure I had ever read one. I googled “how to start a blog” and began Almost Empty Nest.

It has been a bumpy ride with many stops and starts. It did not feel like a purpose at first, but it has become my calling. I recently wrote a calling statement:

I inspire, uplift, and transform women who are transitioning from a full nest to an empty nest so that they are able to let go, find their way, and embrace their empty nest.

I desire for you what I have found for myself – a purpose that never replaces your role as a mother, but gives you energy, fulfillment, and fun and allows you to share your God-given gifts with others.

Here are 5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester

LET GO OF IMPOSSIBLE

You may believe that it is impossible to move past your grief. It is impossible at your age to start something new or to fulfill a long-held dream. There are too many barriers and roadblocks in the way.

Do you remember the story of Abraham and Sarah? The story where one week in Sunday school you learned about Abraham’s call to leave his home and father a new nation. A few weeks later you learned about the birth of his son Isaac. Unlike the Sunday School journey, the real journey required more than a few weeks. It took 24 years with more roadblocks, detours, and drama than a telenovela. God was faithful to Abraham and Sarah. He will be faithful to you. You will be able to overcome your grief and you will be able to find new purposes and adventures.

LET GO OF BAD HABITS

We moms spend years putting everyone else first. If it required putting off our own physical and mental health needs, we did that. We ate nachos in the bleachers and we pushed our mental health issues aside. We chaperoned youth group, but neglected our own spiritual growth. We fear we are selfish if we take care of ourselves. It is not selfish to maintain your physical, mental, and spiritual health.

We can look to Jesus as our example. He often withdrew to be alone with God. There were people clamoring for his attention, but even God in the flesh knew he needed restoration and he took it. If you have neglected your physical, spiritual, or mental health, now is the time to take action. Make an appointment with your doctor. Talk about any and all issues you need guidance on. Listen to the advice you are given. Invest in therapy if you feel it would be helpful. Invest in time with the Lord.

LET GO OF UNMET EXPECTATIONS

We compare our arrival at midlife with the standard we see on our friends’ social media and on their rows at church filled with seemingly loving husbands, successful children, and adorable grandchildren. If our marriage is floundering, our adult child is asleep at home, and our greatest longings are unfulfilled, our minds are like an episode of “Hoarders,” cramped and dark with the debris and rubble of unmet expectations and years of disappointment.

It is not until we put these expectations and disappointments in perspective that we will look forward with a clear vision of the infinite possibilities available in God’s creation. 

Look to the Israelites at the time of Christ. They spent hundreds of years yearning to restore the Davidic kingdom. By focusing only on this singular expectation most missed the most amazing gift ever given, Jesus Christ. Don’t miss what God has in store for you.

FIND YOUR WAY TO PURPOSE

New purpose will not come overnight. It may be a long and arduous trial and error journey or you may discover it right away. Use every self-discovery tool at your disposal to find your gifts and reveal where you are stuck. Some tools you can use are a spiritual gifts assessment, the Strengths Finder, and an Enneagram assessment. I recommend the book The Road Back to You as a companion to your enneagram assessment. You can find free enneagram assessments and spiritual gifts assessments through Google. I don’t have a particular ones I recommend.

FIND YOUR WAY FORWARD 

Many life coaches and goal achievement methods recommend creating a vision board. A vision board is a collage of pictures and words revealing your dreams and goals. It is meant to inspire you. Inspiration is awesome, but you cannot stop there.

Progress requires more than a pretty vision board filled with inspiring pictures of perfect rooms, projects, and accomplishments. It requires backside in a chair, notebook in hand, calendar in the other, and the willingness to give up comfort and excuses.

The Apostle Paul had the singular goal of spreading the news of Jesus Christ. Everything he did and said was channelled through this goal. He planned his journeys, he considered who was accompanying him, and he did not let shipwrecks, imprisonment, or enemies dissuade him. Give your goals the planning and time they deserve.

 

Finding Purpose after your children leave home is not a journey for the faint of heart. You are up for the challenge. Give yourself some time to grieve and process the change in your life, but then get after it! Use these 5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester as a guide.

 

MORE EMPTY NEST RESOURCES:

10 Best Books for Empty Nesters
best books on parenting adult children
Bible verses for empty nesters

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Gifts for Empty Nesters

Gifts for Empty Nesters

Gifts For Empty Nesters

 

Gifts for Empty Nesters are not hard to find if you know what to look for. Whether single or married, an empty nester is going through a big change as the children leave home. Some are excited about the new possibilities and others are downright depressed. Gifts that take into account their new household size and new routines will always be appreciated.

For more ideas:

Ultimate Christmas Gift Guide

Gifts for empty nesters

Gifts for Empty Nesters

 

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Empty Nest Gift Box

Is this not the cutest? The Confetti Gift Company on Etsy makes these gift boxes with a funny card, cocktail mug, candle, polka dot matches, 2 yummy cookies, and a small envelope of confetti. It is sure to cheer up a couple who has just dropped their last child off at college.

Gifts for Empty Nesters

Cooking for Two Cookbook

One of the things that is hardest for a new empty nesting couple to adjust to is cooking for a smaller household. The Complete Cooking for Two Cookbook has over 650 recipes and tips for shopping and storing leftovers and ingredients. You can read my complete review of this cookbook at The Best Cooking for Two Cookbook.

Luggage Tags

I love these luggage tags! The new empty nester is definitley on a new adventure. Even if they cannot travel the world because they are busy working to pay for college, they can use them when they go to Parent’s Weekend at the college.

A Great Book

Check out 10 Best Books for Empty Nesters and find a great book for the new empty nest mom.

A Fun Mug

This Empty Nest mom mug is so fun and would make an excellent gift for a new empty nester. Add a book or gift card, wrap in cellophane with a fluffy bow and you have a perfect gift.

gifts for empty nesters

Throw Blanket

After having teenagers in the house for however many years, pretty much everything in their house is worn out – from towels to throw blankets. A new throw blanket like the ones from Barefoot Dreams (the absolute softest ones ever) will definitely be appreciated.

Empty Nest Ornament

I love this handmade bread dough empty nest ornament!

empty nest ornament
gifts for empty nesters

Beautiful Sign

This beautiful chalkboard sign would be a welcome addition to any empty nester’s kitchen. What a wonderful sentiment to share with their adult children.

Adults and Crafts Gift Box

Does she (or he) like to craft? Adults and Crafts is a gift box with all of the tools and supplies to complete a craft. A new craft is featured each month. You can give one month or a subscription.

gifts for empty nesters
Gifts for Empty Nesters

My Garden Box

Send a My Garden Box. It contains everything you need to build relaxing, rewarding, and enriching garden projects, including live plants (variety of indoor and outdoor plants). With visually illustrated instructions, simple garden care tips, and properly portioned ingredients, assembly is fun & easy! 

Gourmet Food Basket

What would could better to go with their wine than a gourmet food basket. This one even ships Amazon Prime.

Gifts for Empty Nesters

TheraBox

You cannot go wrong with a TheraBox of self-care, stress reducing products. 

Gift Cards

Reintroduce the new empty nesters to going somewhere besides their child’s ball games. Raise has discounted gift cards for everything you can think of – movies, restaurants, and stores. If they are planning a home improvement project, then get a Lowe’s or Home Depot card. New hobbies? How about Michael’s or Hobby Lobby. The possibilities are endless.

Finding gifts for empty nesters is not that hard. They are beginning a new stage in life and there are a million possibilites for their new normal. Treat them to a night out or to anything that will help them adjust. 

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Best Books on Parenting Adult Children

Best Books on Parenting Adult Children

 

Best Books on Parenting Adult Children

 

Are you looking for a book on parenting adult children? I think many people are, but the problem is that so few have been written. I have read many books on empty nesting, but only 3 solely dedicated to Parenting Adult Children. While I am sorry I can’t give you a long list of the best books on parenting adult children, I will share with you what I have found.

For more information about parenting adult children:

Parenting Adult Children

10 Best Books about Empty Nesting: Many of these books have sections about adult children

5 Ways to Find Purpose as an Empty Nester

 

best books on parenting adult children

Best Books On Parenting Adult Children

 

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“Empty Nest, Full Life” by Jill Savage

This book is about empty nesting, but the entire first section deals with our adult children.

This book is the deepest, most vulnerable, and raw of all of the books I read. The first half of the book concerns relationships with adult children. Jill has truly struggled and come out the other side including loving her homosexual son and his friends and dealing with mental illness in another son. Her insight into what drives us as parents to try to control our adult children and beat ourselves up if they do not “turn out” like we would have wanted is unmatched in any of the other books I read.

A quote:

“… I’d made my children’s behavior an idol. I was using them to define myself. In order to have a healthy relationship with my kids, I had to let go of my idols.”

 

“Doing Life with Your Adult Children” by Jim Burns

Best Quote in the Book: 

“No parent wants to see a child end up homeless, make unwise decisions, or lead a negative lifestyle. But this is where parents must face their fears and decide what is best for their child in the long run.”

“Doing Life with your Adult Children” is a practical guide to having good relationships with your grown children. He covers topics such as when to insert your opinion, avoiding entitlement, in-laws, and stepfamilies, grandchildren, and financial planning (including estate planning) with your kids.

best books on parenting adult children

“Praying the Scriptures for your Adult Children” by Jodie Berndt

Best Quote in the Book: 

“God doesn’t want us to trust in an outcome, he wants us to trust in him.” This quote comes from the Epilogue of the book, but it is a great summary for the book.

“Praying the Scriptures for Your Adult Children”  is as much about praying over ourselves as it is praying for our children. One of the biggest struggles we moms face as our children grow up is letting them go and giving them and their decisions to the Lord.

best books on parenting adult children

“How to Really Love Your Adult Child” by Gary Chapman  and Ross Campbell, MD

 

At first I was not too sure about this book. It starts with a long dialogue about our culture and its affects on our kids. While culture is always a factor in all of our lives, I don’t find it helpful to wring our hands over it and give up. As I moved into the chapters the advice became much more practical and helpful.

Ross Campbell is a psychiatrist specializing in children and family issues. Gary Chapman is a minister and counselor. I appreciate the expertise of a physician especially when dealing with depression, ADHD, and other issues in our children.

Unfortunately that’s all there is folks in my list of Best Books on Parenting Adult Children. I reviewed one more book. It was written in 2008 and seemed out of date. The author was talking about being pregnant in 1965! Her child is older than I am, so I did not include it. 

 

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Beauty over 40: Skincare Products I Love

Beauty over 40: Skincare Products I Love

Skin Routine over 40 

Skincare is an important part of looking young and staying healthy, but with the increased accessibility to more and more product, overwhelm can quickly set in. Sometimes I think Ulta and Sephora may be schemes of satan. I go in there thinking I am going to buy one thing and come out with five. To help you with your overwhelm, I have put together a list of products I love or am trying in Skin Routine over 40

Before you read on, you may want to check out:

Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

Beauty over 40: Reader Skincare Favorites

Beauty over 40:  The Complete Guide

 

skin care routine over 40

Skin Routine over 40

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MORNING SKIN ROUTINE OVER 40

I do not have a complicated morning skin routine. I just wash my face in the shower and put on sunscreen. I save all of the serums and exfoliants for the evening. My skin is dry and sensitive, so the treatment products get irritating if I use them too much.

 

CLEANSER

I wash my face in the shower in the mornings. I use either Cetaphil Gentle Cleanser or Cerave Hydrating Facial Cleanser depending on what I find at the store. Both are super inexpensive, are very gentle, and clean my face without the feeling of dryness or tightness.

SUNSCREEN

Everything I read about anti-aging, says sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen! I was blessed to grow up with a Dad who was a doctor and believed in sunscreen before sunscreen was cool. He and I both have very fair skin and he has a family history of skin cancer. I’m not saying that Coppertone SPF 4 (or whatever was available in the 1970s) completely saved my skin, but I think it helped.

The best sunscreen product is one you will use. Find one that is not irritating and feels good under makeup. My issue with sunscreen is that even with very dry skin, I find them greasy. Through research and experience, I now always buy a “mineral sunscreen.”

A favorite of mine for many years has been Clarins UV Plus Anti-Pollution Sunscreen Multi-Protection Broad Spectrum SPF 50. It goes on easily and is not greasy.

I am also trying a tinted sunscreen for the first time: It Cosmetics CC+ Cream with SPF 50 This product was so resoundingly recommended by two readers that I ordered it to try it out. It is very thick and covers well and seems like a foundation. It is nice to tackle two tasks (sunscreen and foundation) with one product. My only complaint is that is does come off on my mask! As it is July 2020 and I wear a mask everywhere, this is an issue!

 

 

EVENING SKIN ROUTINE OVER 40

There is more to my evening skin routine than my morning. I alternate exfoliant and retinol serum to keep my sensitive skin from becoming irritated.

 

MAKEUP REMOVER

 Clinique Take Off the Day Cleansing Balm: I love this make-up remover. My skin is so dry and this product takes off my makeup so easily and without drying my skin at all. The jar is large and I have not taken it when I travel, using makeup wipes instead. I have started to miss the balm so much when I am not at home that I am going to get a travel size version.

TONER

I have recently been using a Micellar Water as my toner. This may not be the best idea as it does not help with my dry skin. I also use the micellar water as a quick way to cleanse my face on days I do not wear makeup. (There are a lot of those lately with the pandemic!) I will likely keep doing this, but I need to add back a real toner.

I am going to order the Clinique Moisture Surge Hydrating Lotion and start using it again. (Note: I am not sure why they call it a lotion because it is a toner or essense meant to be applied between cleansing and treatments.) A product to restore moisture after cleansing is a must!

I have also loved Paula’s Choice SKIN RECOVERY Enriched Calming Toner.

 

EXFOLIANT

I prefer chemical exfoliants to manual exfoliants most of the time. They are neater and there is so much research backing their effectiveness. (See Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products.) My go to exfoliant for years has bee the Paula’s Choice SKIN PERFECTING 8% AHA Gel Exfoliant.

 

TREATMENTS

 I have tried various treatments through the years and I always come back to Paula’s Choice Super Antioxidant Concentrate Serum. It has a low amount of retinol (.01%) which my dry sensitive skin tolerates very well.

I add a few drops of The Ordinary Hyaluronic Acid 2% to my evening moisturizer to help my skin hold in moisture.

 

EYE CREAM

I use Cereve Eye Repair cream. It is an extremely cost efficient and well made eye cream. It also non-irritating. I was surprised how many readers in my Reader Recommendations survey loved it as well.

 

MOISTURIZER

 I currently use CeraVe Skin Renewing Night Cream. It is inexpensive and very hydrating.

This is my current skin routine over 40. I love to try new products also. Comment below with your favorite Skin Routine over 40 products and also check out the Reader Recommendations.

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Reader recommendations for skincare over 40
Beauty over 40: Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40

Beauty over 40: Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40

Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40

Updated: July 2020

One of the best ways to find new products and learn new ways to care for our skin is to ask each other what is working. There are way too many products for each of us to try on our own, so consider it a “divide and conquer” strategy. While researching “Beauty over 40,” I asked my friends to recommend their favorite products. Trying some of them has been a great adventure and has given me some new favorites. If you have favorites, be sure to comment after the post with your Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40.

This post is part of a series on Beauty over 40. The other posts in the series are:

Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

Beauty over 40: Skincare Products I Love

Beauty over 40: Best Skincare and Makeup Videos

Beauty over 40: The Complete Guide

Reader recommendations for skincare over 40

Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40

I originally wrote this post in April 2017. I recently decided it was time for an update and resurveyed my readers and came up with so many new product recommendations. It is partly a selfish endeavor because I love hearing what is working for others and deciding what I would like to try.

This post contains affiliate links, which means if you click on a link and make a purchase, I may receive a small commission. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. For more information, see the full disclosure in the foot bar. I am not an affiliate for Rodan and Fields, Nu Skin, Timeless, MG Naturals, Meaningful Beauty, Plexus, or Mary Kay. The links for those products are included for your convenience and I do not receive a commission for their sale.

MAKEUP REMOVERS AND CLEANSERS

 Clinique Take Off the Day Cleansing Balm was recommended by a reader. I love this make-up remover as well. My skin is so dry and this product takes off my makeup so easily and without drying my skin at all.

Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cleanser: One reader said about Kiehl’s products, “I pretty much love everything they have and they are great for people with numerous allergies.” She listed many Kiehl’s products that she loves including the ultra facial cleanser. They are all listed under their appropriate categories.

Neutrogena HydroBoost Gentle Cleansing Gel

Beauty Counter Glow Cleansing Balm

TONERS

Kiehl’s Facial Toner

EXFOLIANTS

Pixi Glow Tonic: This is an exfoliant with glycolic acid, which exfoliates dead skin.

Beauty Counter Overnight Resurfacing Peel: This is an exfoliant with glycolic (AHA) and Salicylic (BHA) acid.

EYE CREAMS

There were many eye cream recommendations. The eyes are one of the places where we show our age the most so having a good eye cream that is effective is important.

Cerave Eye Repair Cream is my go to eye cream of choice and I was surprised to find out how many others LOVED it also. It was mentioned over and over. The best part is that Cerave an absolute bargain! It is a favorite of those with any skin sensitivities or allergies.

Other eye creams that were recommended:

Beauty Counter Countertime Ultra Renewal Eye Cream

Rodan and Field’s Redefine Multi Function Eye Cream

Kiehl’s Creamy Eye Treatment with Avacado

DAYTIME MOISTURIZER with SUNSCREEN

Rodan and Fields’s Redefine Triple Defense Treatment SPF 30

Elta MD Sunscreen was highly recommended. There are several types available for the face. The UV Shield has zinc oxide and is described by one Amazon reviewer as “very light, non-greasy, and recommended by my dermatologist.” The UV Physical is their tinted product and has titanium dioxide in addition to the zinc oxide. One reader recommended it to avoid malasma spots.

Rodan and Fields REVERSE SPF 50+: One reader said, “The R and F REVERSE SPF 50 is amazing, light, and not greasy at all.”

Cerave Facial Moisturizing Lotion SPF 30

DAYTIME TINTED MOISTURIZER WITH SUNSCREEN

It Cosmetics CC+ Cream with SPF 50 This product was so resoundingly recommended by two readers that I just ordered it to try it out.

Paula’s Choice Super Light Wrinkle Defense Sunscreen

Australian Gold Mineral Lotion Botanical Face Sunscreen

Dermalogica Age Smart Skinperfect Primer SPF 30

NIGHTTIME MOISTURIZER

Neutrogena Deep Moisture Night Cream

Cerave Skin Renewing Night Cream: I use this stuff by the gallon!

GENERAL MOISTURIZER

Clinique Dramatically Different Face Lotion. One reader says, “Love this stuff. Makeup goes on over it so smoothly and my skin drinks it up!!!”

It Cosmetics Confidence in a Cream: I received a sample of this product with my purchase of the tinted sunscreen. I can’t wait to try it out!

Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cream

Trader Joe’s Ultra Hydrating Gel Moisturizer

Dermalogica Intensive Moisture Balance

Cerave Moisturizing Cream

SERUMS AND TREATMENTS

Kiehl’s Daily Reviving Concentrate Oil

Kiehl’s Midnight Recovery Oil

Timeless C+E Ferulic serum: The reader who recommends this product says it is “good for brightening and evening tone and it builds collagen.”

Timeless Coenzyme Q10 Serum: This serum “builds collagen, repairs fine lines, and increases moisture retention.”

Plexus Joyome Essentials 60 Day Combo: A reader says, “My favorite skincare product is Plexus Joyome!  It’s a set of day and evening serums that target many of the concerns we women over 40 share, and they also address a good skin microbiome.”

Skinceuticals CE Ferulic: A reader recommended this serum for the treatment of rosacea.

Rodan and Fields Redefine Intensive Renewing Serum: The reader who loves this sent me a picture of her jar.

FACIAL OIL

Palmer’s Skin Therapy Oil is an inexpensive facial oil that has many of the same ingredients as an expensive serum.

Health Priority Vitamin E Oil

Teddie Organics Rosehip Oil

 

BODY PRODUCTS:

Neutrogena HydroBoost Body Gel Cream

 

PRODUCTS FOR SENSITIVE SKIN:

It seems like the older I get the drier and more sensitive my skin becomes. Several readers mentioned their skin sensitivities as well. Cerave products were overwhelmingly recommended for those with sensitivities to many skincare ingredients including beeswax and aloe. One reader said, “I have had a terrible time with skin issues (chronic hives) the last few years. Both the dermatologist and the allergy doctor recommended Cerave. It’s the only thing I use on my skin now.”

Another reader with sensitive skin sent a picture of her entire regimen.

Other brands mentioned for sensitive skin were Vanicream and Pacifica.

BRAND AND REGIMEN RECOMMENDATIONS

Nu Skin Anti-Aging

Mary Kay Timewise Repair Skincare Line

Beauty Counter Countertime Regimen

Rodan and Fields REVERSE Brightening Regimen From a reader: “I truly believe in Rodan and Fields products, especially the skin lightening and brightening products. It helps with the occasional breaks outs too.”

MG Naturals was recommended as a 100% Titanium Dioxide Free, Organic and Vegan brand.

Meaningful Beauty

Rodan and Fields SOOTHE Regimen: From a reader: “I fell in love with the R and F Soothe Regimen because nothing else worked to calm my redness.”

Looking and feeling younger is a goal we all have. Exercise, a good diet, and the right products are essential ingredients in this quest. Comment below with your Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40 so that other readers can benefit from your experiences and knowledge. To read about my favorite skincare products, go to Beauty over 40: Skincare Products I Love and also be sure to check out all the posts in the Beauty over 40 series.

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What is Empty Nest Syndrome?

What is Empty Nest Syndrome?

What is Empty Nest Syndrome (and What To Do About It)

 

Empty Nest syndrome is something many women (and men) experience after their last child has left home. I have read through many threads in empty nest Facebook groups with comment after comment stating just how sad and miserable the commenter is in their empty nest.

The basic reason why we might be sad is that our children have left home and there is a whole new life to adjust to. But there are several more layers underneath the adjustment causing empty nest syndrome.

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empty nest syndrome

What is Empty Nest Syndrome?

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A quick “google” of empty nest syndrome will tell you that empty nest syndrome is the “sadness or emotional distress affecting parents whose children have grown up and left home.”

I came to a better understanding of what causes it after reading “The Happiness Dare” by Jennifer Dukes Lee.

Ms. Lee writes:

After much research and testing, I concluded that there are five major determinants of happiness. They are:

  • Believing that one’s life has purpose
  • Having a sense of belonging
  • Culling happiness from moments and experiences
  • Helping others feel loved and cherished
  • Using the power of our minds to learn, play, and dream”

Eureka! I shouted when I read this. These are exactly the things a parent loses if they have not determined in advance from where they will derive these determinants of happiness once their children leave home.

If all of your purpose, sense of belonging, moments, experiences, love, and dreams are wrapped up in your children, you will have none of these things left when they leave.

So, sister, her list is where you need to start to get your life back. You must find new purposes. You must find new places to belong. You must find moments and experiences that do not involve your children. You must find others to love and cherish. And you must find new things for your mind to learn, play, and dream.

Is that an easy task?

Not usually.

But, with some effort you can do it. Here are some steps.

  1. Start with your interests. Take the Empty Nest Super Power Quiz. The quiz will help you determine areas of interest and places to focus your time and mind.
  2. Read through your results and follow the Empty Nest Super Power Guide.
  3. Keep researching, reading, and listening to positive sources of inspiration.
  4. Get help if you need it. If you are so low that you have lost interest in even trying to find new purposes, get help. A good place to start is with your primary care physician. They can help you determine if you have a deeper depression. They can then recommend counseling and/or medication that will help you adjust to your new circumstances.
  5. Most importantly, do not give up.

No one ever promised that dropping your last child off at college or helping them move into their first place was going to be easy, but it is not impossible either. Empty Nest Syndrome can be overcome. You just have to take the first step. If your nest is not yet empty, prepare in advance by exploring your interests and new places to belong once your nest is empty.

 

 

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