Shopping for Shorts over 40

Shopping for Shorts over 40

Shopping for Shorts over 40

 

This is a guest post by Shannon Hale of Skip to My Life

“I love shopping for shorts!”  said no one, ever. Shorts shopping signals the beginning of summer for most of us. But for me, this single article of clothing symbolizes so much more.  Topped only by preparing taxes and dental work, searching for a passible option to bare my pasty legs is one of my most dreaded tasks.

Perhaps you can relate.  As moms of teens, we have a front-row seat to our youth-centered culture.  As we start to notice normal physical changes become more pronounced with age, we can quickly turn those changes into mental limitations if we’re not careful.  

Read on for tips about Shopping for shorts over 40.

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Shopping for Shorts over 40

 

 

I’d like to help you out a little, not just by simplifying your wardrobe, but also by giving you a positive message to take into the dressing room this season.  The first step is becoming aware of how we view our bodies and the limiting thoughts we’ve accepted as “normal”.

Here are a few that plagued me as I tried on shorts last week:

“How could you let yourself get this heavy?”

“At least you’re not as big as: (insert name of reality show star).”

“You’re getting older, of course you’re out of shape.”

In the span of about a minute, I completed a mental circle from shame to superiority to resignation and started over at shame.  I said things to myself that I’d be horrified to hear coming from the mouths of my kids or just about anyone I know. Like my old cut-offs, I realized my seriously outdated self-talk needed to be put out with the trash.  

Maybe you’ve experience similar negative body image thoughts and letting them limit what you wear, where you go, or new experiences you try.  If so, here are a few tips I found that updated both my look and my mindset.

I decided to start on my quest for awesome shorts by thinking about which styles make me feel put together and celebrate the shape I am today.  I narrowed them down to just three categories: the Jean Short, the Bermuda, and the Athletic short.

Each of these types serves a different purpose and is versatile enough to work in various settings.  I visited three retail stores available in most markets: Old Navy, JC Penney, and Wal-Mart. Here’s what I learned, along with pointers to help in your shorts-shopping adventures.

 

Most of us will experience a combination of these changes in our lower half as we voyage past 40.  

 

  • “Spider” veins or more pronounced varicosities
  • Stubborn abdominal or hip weight
  • Cellulite or uneven skin, especially in the upper legs
  • Stretch marks
  • Crepey or thinning skin
  • Sun spots

 

The smartest retail outlets have realized we will cross a desert to find a flattering pair of shorts that minimize the above characteristics.  Look for a store that’s abandoned the “one size fits all” mindset of yesterday and enjoy trying on clothing with your unique body type in mind.  

 

THE JEAN SHORT

My must-haves in this category were:

Casual without being sloppy, and

Fitted, but not uncomfortable.  

A darker jean shrinks the mid-section visually so I opted to skip the light-washed looks.  

 

Wal-Mart

!WINNER!

https://www.walmart.com/ip/Women-s-Bermuda-Shorts/121712637

$13.92

These shorts met all my requirements and then some.  They ran true to size and had a mid-waist that offered some support without looking like mom jeans.  I’m average height and prefer a longer inseam, but you could easily adjust these by rolling up the cuff.

Best of all, they offered a fun distressed detail without trying too hard.

 

JC Penney

https://www.jcpenney.com/p/lee-flex-motion-short-womens-mid-rise-5-denim-short/ppr5007784553?pTmplType=regular&catId=SearchResults&searchTerm=Lee+flex+motion+shorts&productGridView=medium&urlState=brand%3Dlee%2Bfisher%257Cindie%2Blee%257Clee%257Cflex%257Cbody%2Bflex&badge=new

$44.00

Lee brand “flex motion” jean shorts offered a nice fit, were comfortable, and ran true to size, but were a bit too short for my taste.  They came with a scarf-type belt that I probably would never wear. Not a winner for me, especially at this price.

 

Old Navy

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=394225002

$24.99

These ran a close second to the Wal-Mart brand for comfort, length and style.  They came in only one jean color, called Toise, which looks like a moderate wash and run true to size.  They are snugger fitting at the leg and won’t flatter every shape. Nothing put them over the top for me, but they’re a good option for the price.

 

THE BERMUDA SHORT

This category of shorts needs to go from casual errand days to date nights.  A wardrobe workhorse, a great Bermuda should come in a variety of colors and make me look great.  

 

Wal-Mart

https://www.walmart.com/ip/Women-s-Hacci-T-shirt-Dress/722782014

$12.44

Wal-Mart’s closest selection to my needs was a pull-on version of the Bermuda, which made me feel frumpy.  I opted for this casual, knee-length, black dress instead and loved the fit and feel so much I bought another in grey.  This dress is very roomy so I sized down.

 

Extremely versatile, this cutie can be classed up with a jacket and sandals or just slipped on with a pair of tennies.   Hidden pockets! Need I say more?

 

JC Penney

!WINNER!

https://www.jcpenney.com/p/st-johns-bay-womens-mid-rise-bermuda-short/ppr5007797700?pTmplType=regular&catId=SearchResults&searchTerm=st+johns+bay+womens+bermuda+shorts&productGridView=medium&urlState=brand%3Dst.%2Bjohn%2560s%2Bbay%26gender%3Dwomen&badge=onlyatjcp

$37.00

Penney’s St. John’s Bay brand had an 11” inseam and midrise waist that ran true to size.  These felt great with just the right amount of support. They come in several colors, including a jean option.  

 

Old Navy

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=392843122

$29.99

Seriously?  Old Navy really dropped the ball in this category.  Although they offered a variety of colors and cute prints, their version of the Women’s Bermuda was far too short for my needs.

 

I ended up on the guy’s side of the store with the Ultimate Slim men’s grey (Panther) Bermudas.  The fit was too baggy for my figure, and my son identified them as “guy’s pants” the minute I put them on.

 

THE ATHLETIC SHORT

Perhaps the trickiest category, the athletic short needs to allow for lots of movement while making me look great enough to want to slip them on and go for a walk.

 

I decided to venture out from the traditional short in this category and offer a variety of options.  Here’s what I found.

 

Wal-Mart

https://www.walmart.com/ip/Women-s-Active-Core-High-Rise-Performance-Capri-Legging/198228334

$12.96

After trying on some real train wrecks in this category, I found a gem that made my trip to the Wal-Mart dressing room worthwhile.

 

This black, athletic Capri by Avia fell a few inches below the knee, offered a tummy-hugging high waist and was light and breathable enough for summer temperatures.  In black, it offered a classic look that could also be worn under a summer dress.

 

JC Penney

https://www.jcpenney.com/p/xersion-womens-mid-rise-skort/ppr5007811807?pTmplType=regular&catId=SearchResults&searchTerm=xersion+skort&productGridView=medium&urlState=brand%3Dxersion&badge=new&selectedSKUId=84002790109

$37.00

I have always admired the look of skorts on others, but it’s one of those “fantasy” wardrobe items that never seem to look like I hope it will once I try it on.  This black, athletic skort was a nice surprise!

 

It fell to just the right length, was very comfortable and ran true to size.  Unfortunately, I needed a bit more support in the tummy area to make it a winner for this price.

 

Old Navy

!WINNER!

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=381890102

$22.99

Old Navy redeemed themselves from the Bermuda debacle with these black, athletic shorts.  I feared they would be too short, but found them very comfortable and even needed to size down.  They offer great tummy support and silky feel with a fun side detail.

 

These are a great buy, especially if you can catch them on sale.

 

This weekend, I plan to go through my closet and pair down my shorts.  But I’ve also decided to replace some of my limiting thoughts with those below.

 

“You’ve set some healthy goals for the summer.  Good for you!”

“Give yourself time to get there.”

“Your body has served you well, be kind to it.”

 

I hope that, when my kids leave our home, they carry a positive view of their bodies resilient enough to withstand the blows of an unhealthy culture.  That goal, I now realize, starts with the way I speak to myself.

 

As temperatures rise and we bare a little more skin, let’s choose kind self-talk.  Instead of bemoaning shorts that no longer fit, why don’t we use that energy to embrace all our incredible bodies have done to get us where we are today.

 

I’ll be taking a KonMari sized clothes donation to the local resale store this weekend and wishing their new owner all my best.  In return, I’m looking forward to refilling my closet, and my mind, with my exclusive brand of self-love.

 

For pictures of Shannon in her winning shorts check out her post: Do you make these short shopping mistakes?

 

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Shannon Hale has been blogging at Skip to My Life since January, 2019. She lives in the heartland with her husband of 25 years, 2 fur babies and 2 mostly-grown children. She found life at home most fulfilling, her career was spent in the healthcare industry.  She learned the value of research-based decision making when it came to using the best products and services available to better her life and health. She has now turned her attention to home, health, and style after 40. 

You can follow her on Facebook and Pinterest.

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50 Books by 50 Years Reading Challenge

 

 

If you have read my post, 50 by 50: 50 Things to Learn, Accomplish, and Experience Before I Turn 50, you know that one of the items on my list was to read 50 books. I am now 50 and these are the 50 books I read for my 50 Books by 50 Years Reading Challenge.

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50 Books by 50 Years Reading Challenge

 

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I started my reading challenge with reading goals in 5 categories:  15 fiction, 10 Biography or History, 10 Business or Blogging, 5 Other Non-Fiction, and 10 Wildcard books. I mostly stuck with the category goals, but am off by one or two in some of the categories. The star ratings are out of 5 stars. I put a box around my favorite books!!

I also tried to do the challenge on the cheap. I bought a Kindle Unlimited membership, read the books that came with my Amazon Prime membership, and used the public library. This quickly became tedious as both the Kindle Unlimited Books and Prime books sometimes were not that good. AND I had to reserve books through the library, wait for them to become available and then read or listen FAST! 

So, I started buying books from Amazon and my husband coincidentally bought an Audible subscription. I LOVE that audible subscription. Awesome books in the car every day!! I can't recommend it enough.

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Fiction Books:

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Everything We Keep by Kerry Lonsdale

A woman attends her finance's funeral on what was supposed to be the day of their wedding. A mysterious woman contacts her and tells her that he is not dead. What should she do? [more info]

4 STARS

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Sisters, One, Two, Three by Nancy Star

Three sisters, one mom, a past tragedy, and lots and lots of secrets.  [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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Walk into Silence by Susan McBride

A seemingly depressed housewife disappears. At first detective Jo Larsen believes she has left her controlling husband, then her body is found.  [more info]

3 1/2 STARS

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In Farleigh Field by Rhys Bowen

A World War II novel set in England. Lord Westerham's young daughter Phoebe finds a dead soldier on their estate. The Westerham family and their neighbors each carry many secrets about their involvements in the war. Not quite Downton Abby, but still fun.  [more info]

4 STARS

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Beach Lawyer by Avery Duff

Legal thriller about a lawyer who loses his job after crossing one of his firms' partners. Language, sex, and violence too rough for my tastes.  [more info]

2 STARS

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Everything We Left Behind by Kerry Lonsdale

The sequel to “Everything We Keep” told from the two different perspectives of the same man who lived in a dissociative fugue state for 6 1/2 years.  [more info]

4 STARS

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The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Zafon

A 10 year old boy is introduced to a book which alters the course of his life and embroils him in a life of mystery.  [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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Precious and Grace by Alexander McCall Smith

#17 in the No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency series. I have read them all. They are so sweet and refreshing.  [more info]

5 STARS

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2nd Chance by James Patterson

I was excited to listen to this book on my last trip. A women's murder club – what could be better? Even though this series is very well reviewed, I found it the characters to be terribly cliched and the “twist at the end” to be kind of dumb. [more info]

2 STARS

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The Velvet Hours by Alyson Richmond

I found this book part delightful and part disturbing. The main character meets the grandmother she never knew and writes the grandmother's story. I loved the granddaughter and the plot that surrounded her, but I could not understand glamorizing the life of a courtesan (the grandmother). [more info]

3 1/2 STARS

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Crossing the Horizon by Notaro

A historical fiction account of the race to be the first woman to cross the Atlantic in a plane.  [more info]

 5 STARS

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The Silent Corner by Koontz

Well written, but in my quest to find a believable female detective (not a woman acting like a man), I did not find it here  [more info]

3 1/2 STARS

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Orphan Train by Baker

Loved this book, which follows the developing friendship of two unlikely cohorts. The characters are amazing and interesting to watch unfold. It is historical fiction, so I also learned about a part of history that I was not familiar with. [more info]

5 STARS

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The High Tide Club by Andrews

Fun beach read about family secrets, murder, old friendships, and trying to rectify the past. [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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A Man Called Ove by Backman

This is the best fiction book I read during the challenge and the only book that made me cry at the end. Extremely charming and witty! [more info]

5 STARS

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The Woman in the Window by AJ Finn

A fun thriller. I did not figure out the plot twist and that is the definition of a good thriller.  [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

Biography and History:

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Rosemary: The Hidden Kennedy Daughter by Kate Larson

Rosemary Kennedy was a child with developmental disabilities amongst a family of wealthy, high achievers. The Kennedy family traveled a path from shame to advocacy. Fascinating reading about their journey and the history of treatment for those with developmental disabilities and for the mentally ill.  [more info]

5 STARS

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Truman: The Man Who Divided the World by Jack Steinberg

A brief history of President Truman – the man who oversaw the end of World War II and the beginning of the Cold War.

3 STARS

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Brain on Fire: My Month of Madness by Susannah Cahalan

An autobiography about the author's month of delusions and seizures and the medical mystery that was ultimately solved. [more info] 

3 STARS

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Killers of the Flower Moon by David Grann

I live an hour from Pawhuska, OKlahoma and I had NO IDEA about this history of the area. This book is jaw-dropping. It chronicles this systematic murder of the Osage Indians in bids to gain their individual mineral rights to the oil reserve on their land in the early 1920s. [more info]

5 STARS

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The Incredible True Story of Blondy Baruti by Baruti

Fascinating read about the journey of a boy from the Congo to Hollywood. Blondy experiences violence in his country, poverty, relatives who take advantage of him, homelessness, and injury, but still he preservers and never gives up on his faith or his journey.  [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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American Heiress by Jeffrey Toobin

Fun read about the kidnapping, crimes, and trial  of Patty Hearst. The biography is “unauthorized,” but extremely well researched. I was a child when these events took place and I had NO IDEA that all of this had occured including the significant violence. Fascinating! [more info]

5 STARS

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Finish First by Hamilton

The Olympic gold medalist and cancer survivor Scott Hamilton takes on the belief that competition is bad and encourages us all to bring our absolute best. I listened to the audio book, which is read by Scott, himself! [more info]

4 STARS

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The King and Queen of Malibu by Randall

A book for anyone who has driven up and down the Pacific Coast Highway through Malibu, CA and wondered about the history of the area and all of the beauty that surrounds it.   [more info]

4 STARS

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Shoe Dog by Phillip Knight

My absolute favorite audio book EVER!!! Phillip Knight, the founder of Nike takes the reader from the beginnings of his company in his parents' basement to the day Nike went public, sharing the entire crazy and gritty ride. The audio book reader is phenomenal!!!  [more info]

5 STARS

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The Boys in the Boat by Brown

Super interesting telling of a how nine working class boys from the west coast beat, not only all the east coast rowing teams, at the sport of rowing (a traditionally upper class east coast sport), but also won the gold medal at the 1936 Olympics in Nazi Germany. [MORE INFO]

 

4 1/2 STARS

Blogging and Business:

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The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

This is one of my favorite books from this challenge. I listened to it on a long car drive and the anecdotes were incredible. So much more than just information, also inspiring. [more info]

5 STARS

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Freakonomics by Levitt and Dubner

This book is also filled with anecdotes that I listened to on a car drive. Interesting, but not as fascinating as The Power of Habit.  [more info]

3 STARS

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Crushing It! by Gary Vaynerchuk

Not excited about this book. Felt like the author was yelling at me the entire time – like one long used car commercial. A few good points, but the advice is very vague. Not written to take notes and implement. [more info]

1 STAR

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Smart but Scattered by Dawson and Guare

Insightful book which helps determine which executive skills are strengths and which are weaknesses. It contains downloadable charts and practical advice for creating a plan to improve the skills that are weaknesses. [more info]

5 STARS

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Smarter, Faster, Better by Charles Duhigg

I did not love this book like I did “The Power of Habit.” I also listened to it, but it was harder to follow in the audio format – might have preferred a printed copy to take notes in. [more info]

3 STARS

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The Ultimate Guide to Facebook Advertising

I used this book to run my first ever facebook ads and I will continue to use it as a reference. It was a bit wordy in parts, but I learned a what I needed to know to run a facebook ad campaign.  [more info]

3 1/2 STARS

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The Essential Habits of 6-Figure Bloggers by Miller

I bookmarked and highlighted this book like crazy. If you are starting out in blogging or would like to hear from some gals who are really successful at this blogging gig, this is a MUST READ!   [more info]

5 STARS

Other Nonfiction:

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In Cold Blood by Truman Capote

Embarrassed I had not read this book before. It was AWESOME! The “true crime” genre that I love so much began with this book. Capote interviews everyone connected to a murdered family in Holcomb, Kansas. MUST READ.  [more info]

5 STARS

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Who Killed JonBenet Ramsey? by Wecht and Bosworth

I learned many things about the murder of JonBenet Ramsey that I did not previously know. Such a frustrating case. A botched investigation and an uncooperative family contribute to the frustration.  [more info]

4 STARS

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Similar Transactions by S. R. Reynolds

The author investigates and solves a 20 year old unsolved disappearance case and along the way learns of the perpetrator's “similar transactions.”  [more info]

4  1/2 STARS

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Red Notice by Bill Browder

An American moves to Russia and begins to invest in their companies. At first he and his investors reap vast profits, but then the Russian government gets involved and he and his colleagues are forced to flee and his attorney is murdered. I was dumbstruck at the lengths the Russians would go to to get what they wanted. This is NONFICTION!!  [more info]

5 STARS

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Bad Blood by Carryrou

“Bad Blood” tells of a scandal right up there with Enron and Bernie Madoff. Those deceived included former cabinet members and some of the wealthiest people in the United States. [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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Killer Among Us by Charles Bosworth

A beautiful young mother is killed in her kitchen in 1992 while her husband and children are away on a trip. This story chronicles her family, the crime, and the three trials that were required to convict the murderer, the victim's husband.  [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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Full Report by Aaron Bucy

A small town Texas police officer shares his stories about life on the job, whether amusing, serious, dangerous, or tragic.  [more info]

3 1/2 STARS

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Tattoos on the Heart by Gregory Boyle

Could not put this book down – a priest's account of his work with gang members in Los Angeles. Father Boyle tells of founding Homeboy Industries to employ the gang members and the ups and downs of living in the poorest parish in LA. [more info]

5  STARS

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The Spider Network by David Enrich

Very intricate account of how a math genius, traders, brokers, and bankers conspired to manipulate an interest rate LIBOR to enrich their own banks and selves. Also shows how justice is not netted out equally as the math genius takes the fall for everyone. [more info]

4 STARS

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I'll Be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara

The subtitle of the book “One Woman's Obsessive Search for the Golden State Killer” says it all. Michelle McNamara along with her crime fighting friends from her website set out to find the man responsible for more than 50 murders and rapes in California. [more info]

4 STARS

Wildcard:

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Clevenger Gold by S. E. Swapp

This book is advertised as a “true story,” but I think it is more historical fiction. I was not wild about it, although it has tons of good reviews. A family's cross-country journey in a covered wagon including murders and some lost gold.  [more info]

2 STARS

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I'll Mature When I'm Dead by Dave Barry

This book is super funny, as is most everything written by Dave Barry. It was not 100% clean, but was worth the price for the colonoscopy and dance recital essays. (Happy to report, that I too have crawled through the “Colossal Colon.”  [more info]

4 1/2 STARS

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Alexander and the Wonderful, Marvelous, Excellent, Terrific Ninety Days by Judith Viorst

If you ever wonder what happened to Alexander of the “Terrible, Horrible, No-Good, Very Bad Day” book, his mom is here to tell you. He grew up and brought his wife and 3 children back to live with Mom and Dad while his house was being remodeled.  [more info]

4 STARS

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For the Love by Jen Hatmaker

I loved this book. I listened to it in the car and it kept me in stitches. Jen Hatmaker reads it herself. It is like she is in the car with you. She speaks a lot of truth to the Christian community. (Some things I can't believe she says. Others are so right on, it is painful.) [more info]

5 STARS

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The Happiness Dare by Lee

I made the mistake of getting the audio book of this title because I wanted to stop the car and underline things every two minutes! So encouraging and a unique concept that Christians are allowed to be happy! I am going to be ordering the paperback.  [more info]

5 STARS

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Girl Meets Change by Strong

I am researching the topic of change for a project. This book was a bit dry, but I did get some material and ideas for my project.  [more info]

3 1/2 STARS

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Above Suspicion by Joe Sharkey

The bizarre tale of an FBI agent who could have easily gotten away with murder, but chose to confess because he knew it was the right thing to do. A movie based on the book has been filmed and will be released soon. [more info]

4 STARS

This challenge has been a blessing to my life and I invite you to read along with me. (You don't have to have a 50th birthday looming to participate.)

Also, please comment with what you are reading and your recommendations as I complete the 50 Books by 50 Years Reading Challenge.

Want to see what else is on my list?  50 Things to Learn, Accomplish, and Experience Before I Turn 50.

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Beauty over 40: The Complete Guide

Beauty over 40: The Complete Guide

Beauty over 40: The Complete Guide

 

Reaching 40 is an incredible milestone. Most of us are through having babies, nursing babies, potty-training toddlers, and all the other joys of our 20s and 30s. Our 40s are a time of new freedoms and adventures.

However, it is also the time when our bodies and faces start changing and we become concerned about maintaining our youthful appearances. And sadly, we also start paying for the sins of our youth – like too much sun exposure.

Fortunately, finding the best anti aging skin care and makeup for over 40 is easier for us than it was for our grandmothers. We benefit from current research and are able to take advantage of newer products to help us fight old damage to our skin, prevent new damage from appearing, and even cover up what we can't fix ;)

Beauty over 40

Beauty over 40: Finding the Best Anti Aging Skincare and Makeup

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There are several steps to finding the best anti aging skincare and makeup. The steps include identifying our specific skin concerns and learning as much as we are able about the different types of products available and the ingredients in those products. Researching our options before we order online or go shopping saves money and wasted effort. So, Beauty over 40, here we go:

 

Step 1: What are my Anti Aging Skin Care Concerns?

The first step in accomplishing our best anti aging skin care is to define our concerns. There are several issues that are common after 40 and often we are concerned about more than one of them. Good research can help us identify anti aging products which address more than one issue. So, what are your concerns?

  • Dry skin
  • Fine lines and wrinkles
  • Enlarged pores
  • Dark spots, uneven skin tone, sun damage
  • Sensitive Skin
  • Acne

 

Step 2:  How do I treat my Anti Aging Skin Care Concerns?

The next step is to decide how to treat each concern. Below are the product types and ingredients to look for in each of the products.

Dry Skin:

Dry skin can be treated with a number of different anti aging products. A good moisturizer is obvious, but toners can help as well. Many products fall under the label “toners.” Some are actually astringents for acne-prone skin that tighten pores. Toners in an anti-aging skin care routine should have a soothing effect by replacing moisture and oils after cleansing. If you have dry skin, avoid alcohols and witch hazel in your toner. Moisturizers will contain these ingredients:

  • Dimethicone: Dimethicone is the main ingredient in oil-free moisturizers; It is “a light emollient that forms a protective layer over the skin's surface, helping to hydrate and keep moisture in”) (1)
  • Petrolatum:  Petrolatum is great for dry skin if you are not concerned about oil. It “prevents water loss” and “hydrates rough dead cells on the skin's surface.” (2)
  • Hyaluronic Acid: Hyaluronic acid plumps and softens the skin.
  • Glycerin:  (Also known as glycerol.) “It helps maintain the skin's outer barrier, which helps prevent dryness and flaking.” (3)
  • Ceremides:  Ceremides help maintain the “skin's natural moisture barrier.” (4)

 

Fine Lines and Wrinkles:

If you are concerned about fine lines and wrinkles, there are two products you must have. The first is a good sunscreen, used EVERYDAY, and the second is a treatment or anti aging serum containing retinol. Retinol is the absolute gold standard (non prescription) ingredient for reducing the appearance of wrinkles. Look for retinol in the ingredient list of the product and use it twice a day.

  • Retinol: Retinol is a vitamin A compound and is available in over the counter products. It is shown to reduce the appearance of wrinkles and other sun damage, like dark spots. The prescription form, tretinoin, is much stronger.

 

Enlarged Pores: 

Several things cause large pores, including the loss of elasticity in our skin as we age, oil production, and genetics. While our pores will not shrink with treatment, their appearance can be reduced. Using a gentle cleanser twice a day to remove oil, exfoliating, and using a retinol product will help. A makeup primer will help your makeup not sink into the pores and improve your appearance. (5) Look for products containing retinol, hyaluronic acid, and:

  • Hydroxy Acids: Hydroxy acids are exfoliants, meaning they remove the upper layer of old, dead skin and help grow new skin. There are several types of hydroxy acids, but beta hydroxy acids (salicylic) are the best at reducing large pores.
  • Niacinamide: Niacinamide is also know as vitamin B-3 (niacin). It helps reduce water loss in the skin and may improve the appearance of enlarged pores, uneven skin tone, and dullness.

 

Dark Spots and Uneven Skin Tone:

Dark spots and uneven skin tone are caused by sun exposure. Use a sunscreen EVERYDAY to avoid further damage and look for products with these ingredients to improve appearance and fade dark spots:

  • Vitamin C: Vitamin C is an antioxidant. It helps protect the skin from sun damage, evens skin tones, and fades dark spots.
  • Coenzyme Q10: Coenzyme Q10 may protect from sun damage and prevent damage from free radicals.
  • Hydroquinone:  A skin lightener
  • SUNSCREEN: Every day!!

 

Sensitive Skin:

Even if your skin has never been sensitive before, it may become sensitive with new hormonal changes and other effects of aging. Avoid scented products and other ingredients such as alcohols, witch hazel, and scented plant extracts. Be cautious and follow instructions with your products. Don't overdo the retinol, Vitamin C, and exfoliants. Your skin may have to build up a tolerance for these ingredients. Look for products containing these ingredients to help with sensitivity:

  • Hyaluronic Acid
  • Plant and Tea Extracts: Unscented plant and tea extracts have antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties.

 

Acne:

Some of us are done with acne and others have it for the first time. Look for these ingredients in your products and avoid overly emollient moisturizers.

  • Benzoyl Peroxide
  • Beta Hydroxy Acid

 

For more information on Anti-Aging Ingredients, see: Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

 

Step 3: How to Shop for Products:

 

 

Step 4: Learn from Experts:

 

  • Watch videos on You Tube. There are so many fun and informative skin care and make-up tutorials on You Tube that it is easy to spend hours watching them. I like to focus on the ones for gals over 40. See Beauty over 40: Best Make-up and Skincare Videos.
  • Get a make over at a cosmetic counter or Sephora. If the products are too expensive, ask the makeup artist to recommend a cheaper version or explore Beauty Blogs and Beauty Videos that recommend “dupes” for expensive products.

 

Step 5: Have Fun Trying New Things:

 

I started the Beauty over 40 series because I wanted to know what I needed to do to maintain my skin, correct some dark spots, and update my makeup. I had been in a skincare/makeup rut for quite a long time. Researching the articles and buying new products has truly been a fun journey. I watched way too many videos and bought way too many products, but, hey, what is a good midlife crisis for?!? I still have several videos and products on my list to try. I have listed my favorite product discoveries below.

My favorite discoveries from this journey are:

Alpha Hydrox Spot Light Targeted Skin Lightener: This product contains Hydroquinone, which is helping to fade some some sun spots on my arms and chest.

Rodan and Fields Dual Active Brightening Complex: My retinol and Vitamin C product. (through my consultant; not an affiliate link)

Benefit POREfessional Primer: Love, love, love this stuff. The ONLY primer I have tried that actually makes my pores disappear.

Lancôme Genifique Yeux eye cream: A great eye cream that goes on easily.

Lancome Cils Booster XL (eyelash primer): My daughter kept telling me how great eyelash primer is and I thought it was a tremendous waste of money. Until I tried it. Wow. It makes a big difference in the thickness and overall effect of my lashes.

Beauty Blenders: I bought the whole set. I use the big pink blender and the gray blender daily. I have not found a use for the little green blender. The soap is included in the set. One of the beauty vloggers I watched said that she had been constantly asked for a cheaper “dupe” for the beauty blender and could not find a really good one, so for now the original reigns supreme.

 

 

 

Achieving our best Beauty over 40 has some new challenges, but there is no reason why we can't still look hot as we glide from our 40s into our 50s and beyond. My research has said the key is sunscreen, sunscreen, and more sunscreen. If you are younger than 40, get on the sunscreen bandwagon now. It is never too young to protect from sun damage. Researching before you shop will save you money and disappointment with products that claim in big print on the front label to help, but don't have the ingredients to actually do the job. Shopping online is a great option because it is easy to look at products and research ingredients and reviews at the same time.

 

 

 

 

Sources: (1), (2), (3), and (4): 5 Important Ingredients in Face Moisturizers for Women

(5) What Causes Large Pores?

 

Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

Skincare over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

 

Getting older has its advantages, but wrinkle-free skin is not one of them. Wrinkles, dry skin, and dark spots send us looking for products to combat these issues. There are more products available than we could ever try and the range in cost and descriptions is overwhelming. This article, Skincare over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products, will help you decipher the labels and claims, beginning with this list of the most common ingredients used in anti-aging products.

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Skincare over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products

 

Let's start our examination of what to look for with a list of the common ingredients found in anti-aging products.

Anti-Aging Ingredients:

  • Retinol:  Retinol is a vitamin A compound and is available in over the counter products. It is shown to reduce the appearance of wrinkles and other sun damage, like dark spots. The prescription form, tretinoin, is much stronger.
  • Vitamin C: Vitamin C is an antioxidant. It helps protect the skin from sun damage, evens skin tones, and fades dark spots.
  • Hydroxy acids: Hydroxy acids are exfoliants, meaning they remove the upper layer of old, dead skin and help grow new skin. There are several types: alpha hydroxy acids, beta hydroxy acids (salicylic acid), and poly hydroxy acids.
  • Coenzyme Q10: Coenzyme Q10 may protect from sun damage and prevent damage from free radicals.
  • Peptides: Peptides are amino acids that help produce collagen or stop it from breaking down.
  • Tea extracts: Teas like green, white, black, and oolong have antioixidant and anti-inflammatory properties. Green tea is the most common tea extract found in anti-aging products.
  • Grape Seed Extract: Grape seed extract promotes wound healing and is soothing to the skin.
  • Niacinamide: Niacinamide is also know as vitamin B-3 (niacin). It helps reduce water loss in the skin and may improve the appearance of enlarged pores, uneven skin tone, and dullness.
  • Hyaluronic acid: Hyaluronic acid is a very effective moisturizer and can be used to help Vitamin C penetrate the skin.
  • Hydroquinone:  Hydroquinone is a skin lightener.

 

Anti-aging ingredients are found in many different types of products, such as those listed below.

 

Types of Anti-Aging Products:

  • Cleansers: Cleansers remove oil, dirt, makeup, sunscreen, and pollen.
  • Toners: Many products fall under the label “toners.” Some are actually astringents for acne-prone skin that tighten pores. Toners in an anti-aging routine should have a soothing effect by replacing moisture and oils after cleansing.
  • Exfoliants: Exfoliants remove dead skin and help the skin absorb other products. Some exfoliants are mechanical with an abrasive (micro beads, pumice, etc) in the product or are an abrasive material, like a facial skin cleaning brush. Other exfoliants are chemical like the hydroxy acids mentioned under “Ingredients” above.
  • Serums and other treatment products: Serums and treatment products are extremely important in an anti-aging routine. These should include anti-aging ingredients, like retinol or vitamin C.
  • Eye creams: There is some debate about whether a special eye cream is necessary. Many contain the same ingredients that are found in facial moisturizers, but are pricier and are in a smaller package.
  • Moisturizers: Moisturizers hold water in the skin, which keeps the natural oils on your face and prevents harmful outside elements from drying out and irritating your skin.
  • Sunscreen: We are all probably tired of hearing about sunscreen, but it is the most important step in a good routine. Almost all skin imperfections are caused by sun damage. Sunscreen should be applied every day, year round.

 

 

 

How to Select Anti-Aging Products:

Deciding on a skincare routine and selecting products should not be complicated. It only seems complicated at the store because there are 10,000 products screaming their benefits at us, leaving us to buy things willy-nilly or exit frustrated. These steps will help the process.

  • Research products before you go to the store. Trying to read the tiny labels on the back of the products is nearly impossible, no matter how strong your readers are. It is fairly easy to find the list of ingredients for any product on the manufacturer's website.
  • Understand the difference in prescription anti-aging products and cosmetic anti-aging products. Prescription products have a proven effect and a much higher concentration of ingredients than is allowed in their over-the-counter cousins. Over-the-counter anti-aging products are considered cosmetics by the FDA. They do not have to prove that they are effective or that their claims of taking 10 years off your face are true. They only have to show that their products are safe to use. Over-the-counter products have undergone some studies, but those studies are not the same as the years and years of standardized studies that a prescription product must go through to go to market. Advertisers and marketers are also allowed a certain amount of “puffery” to sell their products.
  • Price is not an indication of effectiveness. Many drugstore products are just as effective as pricier products.
  • Look at the packaging. Jars that you dip your fingers into every day are less sanitary than pump or tube dispensers. Be especially observant of the packaging of a vitamin C product. Vitamin C will begin breaking down the moment it is exposed to air and sunlight. Vitamin C in a jar is not a good use of your money.
  • The products have to be used consistently and may take weeks to show an effect. And sadly, if you stop using them, the effect will disappear. It takes commitment to a routine both morning and evening. If you are not committed, it is likely a waste of money to purchase the serums and specialized products.
  • You do not have to buy every product from the same line. One brand may have a great cleanser, but their sunscreen causes you irritation. The claim that they are “made to work together” is not entirely accurate. If you pay attention to ingredients and the purpose of each product, you can create a routine that is tailor-made to work together for you.
  • Every face is as different as every snowflake. The products that work for a friend may not work for you. It is unfortunately a journey of trial and error until you find what works best for your skin.
  • If money is a concern, start by trying the cheaper products. Give them a month (unless they cause irritation) to see how they work before buying something pricier. (Or trying a different drugstore product.)

 

Anti-aging ingredients and products seem overwhelming. I receive e-mails and catalogs every day touting the magic available in bottles. However, there are no miracle products, only products that will “help.” Choose your ingredients and products carefully and commit to using them consistently for the best results. I hope that this article, Skincare over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products has assisted you in your research.

The next article in this series will review products and provide more insight into looking youthful. Comment below with your best anti-aging advice and products you like.

Sources:

I made it my goal to find my information from sources that were not selling products. Some websites I relied on and that have good information are: Webmd, Health.howstuffworks, and Mayo Clinic. The links will take you to one of the articles I used on each site, although I read many.

Beauty Over 40: Best Makeup and Skincare Videos

Beauty Over 40: Best Makeup and Skincare Videos

Beauty over 40: Best Makeup and Skincare Videos

    I've had to face the facts. I'm looking older. A particularly scary recent photo of me revealed many things I have not wanted to see – wrinkles around my eyes, droopy eyelids, and bad makeup application. Thus, my new hobby: watching makeup and skincare videos on You-Tube, and a new blog series: Beauty over 40. Having spent days watching these videos, I want to share the best ones. So, here goes…. Beauty over 40: Best Makeup and Skincare Videos   This post is part of a series on Beauty over 40. The other posts in the series are: Beauty over 40: What to Look for in Anti-Aging Products Beauty over 40: Skincare Products I Love Beauty over 40: Reader Recommendations for Skincare over 40 Beauty over 40: The Complete Guide  
Best beauty over 40 videos

Beauty over 40: Best Makeup and Skincare Videos

  Using the search function on You-Tube, you can find all sorts of videos about makeup and skincare. Almost none of them are for us, the almost empty nesters (and empty nesters) with unique makeup and skincare needs. What works for a 25 year old is not the same as what works for a 40+ year old. As I conducted my search, I looked for several qualifications in the you-tubers:
  1. At least 40 years old
  2. No obvious surgeries, botox, etc. If the first thing I notice about someone is that they have had a botox injection, that is not beauty to me. I am not opposed to procedures, but they should make you look better and not like someone who has had “a lot of work done.”
  3. Uses and reviews both high end and lower end (“drugstore”) products.
  4. Not selling one particular brand or line of products.
  5. Their videos need to be recent. It is a plus if they publish videos on a consistent basis.
 

Hot and Flashy

I absolutely could not resist this gal's videos. She had me with the name of her channel – “Hot and Flashy.” She is 54 years old and describes herself as a “Benjamin Button.” (#goals) Her site says it serves those who are “over 50,” but I would be happy to have her skin at 48! She publishes videos frequently. They are of good quality and have a wealth of information. Here are her morning and evening skincare videos:

Ella Leary Artistry

OK, I'm not sure this gal is actually in her 40s, but she covers many makeup and skincare issues that affect aging skin. She is a professional makeup artist and includes videos that cover more than aging. I chose to share her tutorials on undereye bags, discoloration, and circles. She also has a great one on contouring and highlighting mature skin.

Cate Trunnell

I loved watching Cate Trunnell's videos especially her “5 Drugstore Products in 5 Minutes” (because that is the kind of makeup routine I love) and her “Makeup Basics” videos. She is very relatable and fun to watch.

Hip Chick Online

I chose this video blogger even though she does not post that frequently. Her videos are short and informative and cover makeup, skincare, hair, and clothing. One of the reasons I chose to feature her is that she has darker hair, eyes, and skin than the other ladies I listed, so if you are not fair-skinned, it might be easier to see how products look on her. She works in the beauty industry.
I am absolutely amazed at the things you can learn in the comfort of your own home using video tutorials and classes. These makeup and skincare videos for women over 40 are the bomb. (Thank you video bloggers!) I have taken copious notes and I am excited to watch and re-watch them while I am actually in my bathroom with my makeup!  
“From Mom to Me Again” – Book Review

“From Mom to Me Again” – Book Review

From Mom to Me Again – Book Review

 

Do you ever ask? What do I do now? I have spent 18+ years of my life nurturing and guiding my child, only to work myself out of a job. I can't even remember what my hobbies, desires, and dreams were before I had kids. What now??? The book, From Mom to Me Again: How I Survived my First Empty Nest Year and Reinvented the Rest of My Life by Melissa T. Shultz will help you answer these questions.

"From Mom to Me Again" book review

From Mom to Me Again – Book Review

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Ms. Shultz is an author and acquisitions editor for Jim Donovan Literary. She has written about health and parenting for many publications, including the Huffington Post and the New York Times. She is the mom to two grown sons. Her book follows her transition from the college search with her two boys to a nest without kids. She does not mince words – she covers it all, from Wallowing in the Past and on the Couch to Finding the Right Path to Reinvention.

The introduction, It Happens to the Best of Us, and Part One, Letting Go of the Mothering Instinct, make clear that the process of separation needs to begin before your child actually leaves home. My favorite quote from these sections is:

Adolescence, contrary to what many parents think, continues until your child's mid twenties. During the years when they are preparing to leave home, the experts say our role does not and should not go away, but instead, it needs to shift to that of mentor – someone who can help them sort of what's happening and why it's happening without making all the decisions for the them. 

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Part Two, Wallowing in the Past and On the Couch,” are the empathy chapters. She's been there. She quotes others who have been there. It is a shocking transition when the last child leaves home. If nothing else, your routine has been completely upended. Spending time worrying if you did enough, if you taught them enough, if you helped them transition enough are normal, but we can't stay stuck there. At some point, we have to shift our focus to the rest of our lives.

Searching for a New Life With Meaning is the third part of the book. She begins covering the “what nows?” Even if you work full-time, you will find yourself with time on your hands that you have not had before. If the majority of your time before your child left was spent assisting with and watching their activities, you will have a considerable amount of time. Your new normal will involve new routines, activities, dreams, and goals. Interestingly, Ms. Shultz spends a chapter discussing some of the things that may hold us back from moving forward – things that we may have been able to repress while we were rearing our kids, but now become stumbling blocks to achieving new goals – such as the impact of our own parents on our lives and thinking. She then emphasizes improving our outlook and resilience. I love this quote:

One of the basic tenets of psychology is that what you focus on grows in significance. So if you're focusing on something negative, it can cloud all your thoughts. To bring about change, especially during times of change, such as when your children are leaving home, begin by shifting your focus away from how difficult you think it will be to adapt to their leaving to more positive and productive thoughts. What do you want to change about your life? What are you curious about? The experts say if you can shut out the negative noise, envision what you want, and pursue an interest, you're well on your way – intentionally moving toward something instead of intentionally staying still.

The last section of her book is Finding the Right Path to Reinvention. She covers our changing relationships with our spouses and friends, making new friends, discovering new hobbies, and perhaps returning to school and/or starting or changing careers. She includes many examples of women who have chosen many different paths in their reinvention. As I read the book, I highlighted websites, blogs, books, and articles that she generously peppered throughout the book. I was so relieved to find a “Resources” section at the end of the book with every one of her references listed. This list alone is worth the price of the book.

From Mom to Me Again is a fairly quick read. She flows from one section to another seamlessly. I was not only encouraged that there will still be life to live after my last child goes to college, but I am also now filled with so many ideas and possibilities for how I will spend that time. The book is genuinely entertaining and relatable as she tells her story. As I flipped back through my highlights to write this review I could not help but reread many of the pages. I highly recommend this book for any mom facing an upcoming empty nest or who is considering her options as that happens.

 

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