Crockpot Meals for Two

Crockpot Recipes for Two

 

I have started reworking some of our favorite recipes into crockpot recipes for two people instead of five because my husband and I are finding ourselves without our kids at meal times more and more. This used to be such a rare occurrence that we went out to dinner when they were not with us. But now it is happening once or week or more. I cannot remember what we ate for dinner before we had children, but it probably was not anything I wish to duplicate now!

 

For more recipes: 20 Recipes for Two

You will also love: Tips and Tricks to Make Cooking for Two Easy

and The Best Cooking for Two Cookbook

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Crockpot Recipes for Two

 

 

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The convenience and ease of a slow cooker is not something I want to give up even if I am not cooking for a crowd. Below you will find my adapted recipes for Beef Stroganoff, Chicken Tacos, and Chili.

 

I am currently cooking my way through: “The Complete Cooking for Two Cookbook: 650 Recipes for Everything You'll Ever Want to Make.”  This cookbook contains 20 Slow Cooker Favorites adapated for 2 people.

I have a 6 quart All-Clad Slow Cooker. It handles smaller recipes great!

 

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Beef Stroganoff for Two


Course Main Course
Keyword Beef Stroganoff for Two

Ingredients

  • 1 lb cubed beef stew meat
  • 1 10.75 oz can condensed Golden Mushroom soup
  • 1/2 cup chopped onion
  • 1 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce
  • 1/4 cup water
  • wide egg noodles
  • 2 oz cream cheese

Instructions

  1. Place all ingredients in the slow cooker except noodles and cream cheese. (If you desire, you can brown the meat first, but it is not necessary.) Salt and Pepper the meat.

  2. Cook on low for 8 hours. (Or on high for 4 hours).

  3. Cook about 1/2 the noodles according to the package directions. Save the remaining noodles to cook and eat with the leftover meat.

  4. Stir the cream cheese into the meat sauce just before serving.

  5. Serve the meat and sauce on top of the noodles.

Recipe Notes

Recipe adapted from All Recipes

 

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Chicken Tacos

Course Main Course
Keyword Chicken Tacos for Two

Ingredients

  • 2 Chicken Breasts
  • 4 oz Zesty Italian Dressing
  • 3/4 tsp minced garlic
  • 1/2 packet Ranch Dressing mix
  • 1/4 cup water
  • 1/4 tsp chili powder
  • 1/4 tsp ground cumin
  • Taco shells
  • Taco toppings

Instructions

  1. Place everything but the shells and toppings in the slow cooker. Stir the ingredients a little to combine.

  2. Set the slow cooker to the low setting and cook for about 5 hours.

  3. Remove the chicken from the slow cooker and place on a cutting board. Shred the chicken.

  4. Cook the taco shells according to the package directions.

  5. Put the meat and toppings into the taco shells.

Recipe Notes

Recipe adapted from Chef In Training

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Chili for Two

Course Main Course
Keyword Chili for Two

Ingredients

  • 1 lb Ground Beef
  • 1/2 cup chopped onion
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1/2 tsp pepper
  • 15 oz can tomato sauce
  • 1 1/2 tsp cumin
  • 1/8 tsp garlic powder
  • 1 1/2 tsp paprika
  • 1 tbsp + 1 1/2 tsp chili powder
  • 1/2 can Beans (optional)

Instructions

  1. Brown meat and onion with the salt and pepper. Transfer to a slow cooker.

  2. Add tomato sauce, beans, and spices. Add broth from cooking meat to thin to desired consistency.
  3. Cook on low 6-8 hours.

  4. Serve with toppings of your choice. (Ideas: Fritos, crackers, shredded cheese, purple onion)

These Crockpot Recipes for Two are great, not only for empty nesters, but also make great college student recipes. I modified the chicken tacos and beef stroganoff instructions for those with very little cooking experience for my son when he moved into his first apartment. Those recipes can be found in my First Apartment Care Package post.

A Day of Adventure on Oahu

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A Day of Adventure on Oahu

 

When I planned our trip to Hawaii, I pictured myself sitting on the beach reading, occasionally dipping my toes in the water, going to a luau and watching the sunset. I am not the adventure type. I did not plan to swim with sea turtles or row down a river on a stand up paddle board. My travel companions had other plans. After a thorough investigation of suggested activities and reviews on the internet, my husband booked a private adventure guide to help us explore on our last day in Hawaii.

Our guide, Ryan, asked my husband what we wanted to do. In consultation with the girls it was determined that swimming with sea turtles was at the top of our list. He drove us to the North Shore on a rainy, blustery morning. The surf was not at all calm, but throwing caution to the wind, we jumped right in with these massive turtles. We were warned not to touch the turtles because it is against the law. Someone forgot to tell the turtles because they were touching us. Everyone else was thrilled. I had water up my nose from the waves and am not a touchy-feely-huggy sort on a normal day, but especially not with amphibians. (My smarty-pants son informs me that sea turtles are reptiles. I looked it up. He is right. I never would have gotten in the water with them if I had known they were the same biological classification as snakes.)

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My husband, our daughter and a friend are thrilled with the sea turtles. Me (in the background), not so much.

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After swimming with the turtles we drove to Waimea Bay so the girls could jump off a cliff… because everyone should take someone else's child to jump off a cliff. Ryan also took the girls and my husband snorkeling in the bay on the ocean side of the rocks you can see in the picture. I was still recovering from my full-on sea turtle panic attack and I enjoyed the fun from the beach.

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One of the most wonderful parts of the day was stopping at fruit stands and buying the local produce. I love pineapple. The pineapple that we bought at this stand was some of the best I have ever eaten. Ryan also made us a snack of mangos with granola and honey. Yum!

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I can be adventurous… on a perfectly still river… even if stand up paddle boarding becomes lay down paddle boarding.

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We capped off our day with a breathtakingly beautiful hike to the top of this mountain. There was almost no discernable trail and at times the brush was up to my waist. It is so unfair that some parts of the world are so majestic and are BUG FREE when we can hardly go out on our back patio in the summer without coming in covered in mosquito and chigger bites.

Ryan of Mahina Hawaii Tours is a fabulous guide. He will tailor a day to your interests and desires. In addition to our adventure activites he showed us places where movies and television shows have been shot – including the smoke trees from “Lost” and the beach from “The Hunger Games: Catching Fire.” My husband found him on Trip Advisor where he has all “excellent” reviews and one “very good.” If you plan a trip to Oahu, put Ryan on the top of your “can't miss” tours. Even scardy-cats like me can overcome sea turtle trauma and have an awesome time.

(We paid full price for the tour and I am not being compensated in any way for this review.)

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Do You Know You’re Already Amazing?

Do You Know You’re Already Amazing?

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Do you know you’re already amazing? What woman does not need to hear these words? The world throws lie after lie at us. We are not beautiful, skinny, talented, rich, worthy or valuable enough. Our homes are not Pinterest perfect and our parenting skills are lacking.

Holley Gerth understands our frustrations and fears and has written about them in her new book, “Do You Know You’re Already Amazing? 30 Truths to Set Your Heart Free.” In the intro she shares, “Each of the thirty devotionals in this book addresses a lie our hearts are tempted to believe and shares the truth God wants to offer us instead.”

I have truly enjoyed setting aside 10-15 minutes each morning and completing the daily devotional. Her lessons are ones we cannot hear enough. Her theme verse is Psalm 139:14, “I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way.” She reminds us that recognizing that you are an elaborately built, wonderful part of God’s creation is not pride. It leads us to praise our maker. It is time for Christian women to stand together and lead each other to this truth.

This book is perfect for any group of women from middle school and up. The 30 devotionals are not long. Each includes a Bible reading, a devotional from Holley and a few follow-up questions. The book is also purse-sized. It can be carried in the car and read while waiting in the pick up line at school or anywhere else a busy mom finds herself in our “hurry up and wait” lives.

I received a free copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.

update: October 3, 2016

I recently read Holley's follow up post, “How We Can Beat the Lies We Battle.” Don't miss her excellent and uplifting message.

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Why Paying Off Your Mortgage is a BAD IDEA (and other things my rich dad taught me)

Why Paying Off Your Mortgage is a BAD IDEA (and other things my rich dad taught me)

Paying Off Your Mortgage is a BAD IDEA and Other Things my Rich Dad Taught Me

 

 

I have watched with curiosity as many folks have started or are in the midst of a 7-step program to eliminate all debt and live frugally. I agree with many of these steps and processes especially the mantra that you have to live within your means and prepare for the future. What confounds me is the advise to pay off your mortgage early and as quickly as possible because that is NOT what my rich dad taught me. My Dad taught me that Paying Off your Mortgage is a BAD IDEA.

 

Disclaimer and Warning: If you have credit card debt, this is NOT the article for you. Don't interpret anything in this article as permission to carry credit card debt.

 

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Paying Off Your Mortgage is a BAD IDEA and Other Things My Rich Dad Taught Me

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My dad taught me many great financial lessons. One of the best is to realize that there will always be people with more money than you have. There will always be people who live a grander lifestyle and that the lifestyle someone is living is not necessarily indicative of their wealth. Financial worth is the sum of your assets less the sum of your debts, not how big your house is or what brand of car you drive. He taught me to be myself around both those who are wealthier than I am and those who are significantly less wealthy than I am, neither to try to impress those with more nor to apologize around those with less. He is a wise man and is rich in not only financial worth, but also in the things that really matter – faith, family, friends, love.

Another of his lessons is that debt is not 100% bad. Debt is what the wealthy call “leverage.” If you can do something better with the cash you would use to pay off the debt, then you should do it. (Again, not talking about credit card debt. Credit card debt is ALWAYS bad.) With mortgage loans at a historic low, there is no better time to keep your mortgage and use your cash for better things.

Before we discuss what the better things are, let's lay out the problems with a paid-for house or why paying off your mortgag is a bad idea:

  • Your home is a place to live and not necessarily an investment.
  • Your personal home (unless you rent out a room) does not provide income.
  • Many net worth forms exclude your home equity because it is not considered an “investable asset.”
  • You will lose the tax deduction for the interest on your home.
  • If you need the cash invested in your home, you will have to sell the house to get your money or take out another mortgage. If the reason you need the cash is due to a catastrophic illness or disability that has caused you to lose your income, you will not qualify for a mortgage.

What you need to do instead:

Prepare for the future and that includes unimaginable disasters.

  • Buy good health insurance. Your health can change in a moment. Buy the best insurance you can and that works for your family. A health disaster can last longer and require more than a savings of 6 months living expenses. I saw a Facebook post this week about a family whose child needs a $200,000 brain surgery. One of their prayer requests was that their insurance would pay more than 50% of the cost. They have bad insurance if that is the case. Probably the number one thing to look at when picking health insurance is your maximum out of pocket cost per year. Ours is $10,000 for our family. Do not skimp on health insurance.
  • Buy as much disability insurance as you can get. The biggest financial disaster than any family can experience is the complete disability of the main wage earner.
  • Buy adequate life insurance on the main wage earner. Also buy enough life insurance on a stay-at-home parent to cover the cost of child care if that person were to die.
  • Insure your home for its replacement cost. Insure it for the possible disasters in your area like flooding or earthquakes. I picked up earthquake insurance about 6 months ago because Oklahoma has become a hotbed of seismic activity.
  • Have good wills drawn. It's no fun to think about and it can be expensive, but it is necessary.
  • If you have done all of the above and still have disposable cash, then invest it.  Put the amount you would put toward paying down the mortgage into an S&P 500 index fund. An index fund that you never touch or try to time will most likely outperform the interest you are paying on your mortgage. Or save for the down payment on a second home to use as a rental and let a renter pay the mortgage, taxes and insurance. If you want to work on paying down a mortgage, pay down the mortgage of a second home because that home provides income, whereas your personal home is only income if you sell it. If we have inflation, buy a CD ladder with your cash and celebrate that your house is at 3.75% and gaining in value everyday, while you are making 7% off your cash.

I did not want to dispense financial advise without a significant amount of research and number crunching, so I prepared 5 scenarios to illustrate my point. (Keep in mind there are infinite combinations and permutations of mortgage situations and I could not do them all.) These should illustrate how you can plug in your own numbers for your situation. All of my number crunching spreadsheets and sources are available to print. The first three scenarios cover the last 30 years (1986-2016) and the last two cover the last 10 years (2006-2016).

Scenario 1: A home is purchased in September 1986 with a $120,000 mortgage at the scary rate of 10% (yes, that was the rate for a 30 year mortgage in September 1986). Beginning with the first payment, $500 extra per month is paid on the balance of the mortgage. The home is paid for on April 1, 1997. Beginning on May 1, 1997 $1550 is invested monthly in an S&P 500 index fund. On September 1, 2016 the fund is worth $681,029.19. 

Scenario 2: Same purchase and mortgage details. Instead of paying extra toward the mortgage, $500 per month is invested monthly in an S&P 500 index fund. On September 1, 2016, the mortgage is paid in full and the index fund is worth $685,565.85 or $4,536.66 more than scenario 1.

Scenario 2 is not that much more impressive than scenario 1 because interest rates were high (therefore, harder to make more money somewhere else) and the person in scenario 2 failed to refinance once rates become significantly more reasonable.

Scenario 3: Same purchase and mortgage details as 1 and 2, except the mortgage is refinanced in October 1993 at 6.91%. On September 1, 2016 a balance of $52,912.55 remains on the mortgage, but the investor has $827,119.22 in the index fund. This amount is more than enough to either continue the mortgage payments or write a check for the balance and still have $93,177.48 more in the fund than in scenario 1.

Scenario 4: A home is purchased in September 2006 with a $120,000 mortgage at 6.55%. Beginning with the first payment, $500 extra per month is paid on the balance of the mortgage. On September 1, 2016, only 14 payments remain and the balance of the mortgage is $18,585.53.

Scenario 5: Same purchase and mortgage details as scenario 4. Instead of paying extra toward the mortgage, $500 per month is invested monthly in an S&P 500 index fund. On September 1, 2016, a balance of $102,066.47 remains on the mortgage and the fund is worth $95,434.31. 

What do both scenario 4 and 5 investors need to do? Refinance the mortgage!!

Looking at scenarios 4 and 5, it is tempting to think 4 is better because the results are more immediate. It is easier to check off the mortgage balance every month and be proud of the progress. It is harder to put money in an investment month after month, never pull it out regardless of the market performance and wait for what has historically always happened: an investment that beats inflation. I understand it is counter-intuitive. While there are never any guarantees, the smarter thing is to invest your cash and treat your home like a place to live. It does not require searching to find financial experts who agree. Without any effort, I found two concurring opinions in the two newspapers I read daily.

Suzanne Wheeler, a certified financial transitionist, a financial planner who aids clients in difficult financial situations, says, “When markets decline for a period of time, we need to revisit the long-term plan and remind ourselves this is a cycle, and it will eventually stabilize.” Tulsa World, September 16, 2016

“‘I consider mortgage debt ‘good debt,'” says Delvin Joyce, managing director at Prudential Financial. “‘If you're a retiree, or soon to be, your kids are likely out of the home, so your home may be one of your only tax shelters.'” USA Today, “3 bills to pay off before you retire,” September 15, 2016

Way back in 1991, just after I married, I read an article by Jane Bryant Quinn. There was a 1-800 number to call and order her book. Several weeks later it showed up in my mailbox. I read and marked the book cover to cover and, after my Dad's wisdom and advise, her book formed most of my financial plans and philosophies. I have kept the book for sentimentality, if nothing else. I checked back to see what she said in 1991.

Her book gave positive reasons to pay down a mortgage and also some negatives. Interest rates were high in 1991, so there were many more reasons to consider paying down a mortgage than there are now. On page 821 of the 1991 edition of her book “Making the Most of Your Money” (updated in 2009) she says, “If you are definitely not rolling in money, hang on to your mortgage. If you pay off the loan, your precious liquidity will be lost. You'll be house rich but cash poor. You might even be forced to sell the house just to get your capital back out.” Her current book is called, “How to Make Your Money Last: The Indispensible Retirement Guide”  I love her easy to understand, practical way of explaining financial planning and options. Another book I like is “Your Money Ratios – 8 Simple Tools for Financial Security at Every Stage of Life” by Charles Farrell, JD, LLM.

Ultimately the decision of whether to pay down your mortgage or use the money for other things is a personal one. I am 25 years into marriage, my children are almost grown and retirement is still almost 20 years off. I am happy with our decision to keep a mortgage, be extremely well-insured, invest in low cost mutual funds and rental property and the lifestyle we have lived.

My last message is to remember that life is about way more than creating wealth. Enjoy your children and give them experiences while they are home. Young families get sick of hearing people tell them that time is short. It did not feel short when I was in the grocery store with my small children either. I don't want that experience back. The experiences I would love to do again are trips to the beach and the mountains and cruising on a ship, days at sporting events, the fun of Christmas morning with little children.

Whether you believe it or not, your children will one day get their drivers licenses, graduate from high school and leave your nest. They will come home and some of those days will be like they never left, but your children will never again be as available as they were when they were young. We took two trips this past summer without at least one of our children. The oldest had an internship and could not join us on either trip. The middle child had a conflict with a camp for one of our trips. We still had fun, but it is not exactly the same.

I have also had an unfortunate front-row seat to a number of tragic disasters. I have been to the funerals for 5 people who were killed in a plane crash, four of them from one family. I had a friend who collapsed on her bathroom floor one morning from an abdominal aneurysm and died by that evening. Both my husband and I have a grandfather we never met because they died suddenly when our parent was a teenager. I've talked to the family members left behind in these unimaginable and completely without warning situations and not one of them ever mentioned whether the mortgage of the deceased was paid. I've heard about the necessity of wills and life insurance. I've heard many stories and memories. As long as there is a source of income to pay the mortgage until it can be sold, the mortgage is not an issue. All of the survivors of these people would give any amount of money to have another day with their loved one.

You will eventually pay off your mortgage. It will happen, but don't do it at the expense of preparation for disasters that a paid-for mortgage won't help that much or at the expense of experiences with your children. Take them to the beach. Take them to the mountains. Take them fishing. Take them to the zoo. Take them to the amusement park. Take them to the game. When they are grown, these are the memories that will continue to bond you together.

I have spent many hours of trepidation on this article because I know it crosses a current conventional wisdom. I have added, subtracted, checked, re-checked and re-checked again all of my numbers. If you find an error of some significance ($1000 or more), please alert me. Amortization tables may produce amounts that are insignificantly different that mine. I also don't mean my article to be insulting. If you read it and want to continue paying down your mortgage, that is A-OK with me. The main purpose of my article, no matter your decision, is to urge you to never allow only one source to be your guide (except Jesus, of course….). Read MANY books, magazines, newspapers and blogs with financial advise and construct a plan to is tailored to your family.

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Harness Your Energy at the Right Time and On the Right Tasks

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Book review: The Productivity Project by Chris Bailey

 

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While walking through the University of Southern California bookstore over spring break, I stumbled across a book called “The Productivity Project” by Chris Bailey. I am now following advice from a 25-year-old on how to use my time more wisely. I remember being 25 (back when he was 3 years old). I had a full-time job (so I guess I was productive), but I desperately wanted to be a mom. Now, after being at home for 21 years, I am having to re-learn how to do something besides being a mom and managing my time with the “deal with whatever is on fire” method. I am learning through the book and his 14 weeks of challenges to harness my energy at the right time on the right tasks.

It does not help my self-esteem, however, that he considers most of my tasks to be “maintenance tasks.” He claims he is able to devote only one day per week to accomplishing all of his maintenance items (laundry, errands, meal prep, etc.). If I were a single 25-year-old man, I am sure I could do the same, but I am not, so I rebrand many of these tasks as “taking care of my family” and declare them very important.

To the young mothers out there I want you to know that I did none of this “productivity” stuff when my children were younger and I have no regrets. I spent my time driving my kids around, going to their activities, volunteering at their schools, reading to and with them and playing with them. Investing in the lives of children is never a mistake. Every hour spent with your child whether it is in the car singing “Baby Beluga” or talking about faith, family, friends, schoolwork, activities, politics and current events with your older children is time invested wisely. The push to be it all to everyone and have a successful career at the same time can be overwhelming, so look at these years as “investment years” and give yourself a break from the pressure. On the flip side, please don’t misinterpret that I am saying working is wrong or that I am passing out any other kind of guilt. My husband was able to do all of the wage earning and I managed all of our finances and the day-time parenting. Every family has to find their own balance.

Now that my children are in the process of launching and the two that are still home are at school by 8 and often are not home until after 6, I feel free to explore other activities and ideas without guilt. I want to write. I want to learn more about web design. I want to learn Spanish. If I have to take the advice of a 25 year old to learn to manage time that I did not used to have, that is ok. Trust me, it can be deer in the headlights for a stay-at-home mom to have a free hour and suddenly not know what to do with it. Any guidance is appreciated.

Mr. Bailey’s philosophy has been a fun and encouraging way to start my journey. He also speaks my language. The language of “you don’t have to be an early riser to be productive.” Big load off my mind to not beat myself up if 5am is not my “prime time.”

If you also want to explore your productivity and harness your energy at the right time of day on the right tasks, “The Productivity Project's” 14 week challenge is a must.

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25 Secrets of a 25 Year Marriage

25 Secrets of a 25 Year Marriage

25 Secrets of a 25 Year Marriage

My husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary this summer. We’ve survived 7 years of post-college education, 3 children, 3 dogs and 6 addresses (including our current and on-going “fixer-upper” of 11 years). We’ve done a lot of things right and a few things wrong. I would like to tell you that I know all of the secrets to a successful marriage, but I can only offer our 25 Secrets of a 25 Year Marriage and pray they are an encouragement to you as we all navigate through the ups and downs of married life.

Note: This post was written after our 25th anniversary in 2016. Working on 30 years in 2021. But just so ya know… We definitely have not been to Hawaii this summer and our anniversary dinner this year was take out from a favorite restaurant!

 

25 secrets of a 25 year marriage

25 Secrets of a 25 Year Marriage

 

 

Our secrets:

  1. We met young. Very young. 18 years old to be exact. We had both just completed our first week of college. Meeting young means you don’t bring a tremendous amount of baggage with you to the relationship.
  2. Meeting young also means you grow up together. You don’t bring baggage, but you bring immaturity.
  3. Despite our immaturity we both seemed to know where we were headed and it was the same place. So, we hooked our boats together and started rowing.
  4. We are both particularly talented at “chipping.” We’ve been the type of people who know that getting up and showing up is half the battle. Not giving up is the other half. Whether it was medical school, 5 decades of wallpaper or saving for retirement, we have chipped away at almost everything we have accomplished.
  5. Our greatest joy has been our children. We have both loved every minute of being parents.
  6. We have always come to agreement on major decisions.
  7. I like that we naturally agree on most things involving our faith, politics, and the world in which we live. We are not the same person, so there are variations on our opinions, but we share core views.
  8. Perhaps we have thought alike on so many things because we share a very similar background. I took a marriage class in college. The professor gave us a list and said that the more of the items on the list shared with a future spouse, the better chance your marriage had of surviving. It did not make sense at the time, but now it does. The list included things like closeness in age, religious background, education and various other family demographics. We nailed the age thing – he is only 3 days older than I am.
  9. Our backgrounds were not exactly the same, though. He grew up hunting and fishing and around horses. I had never fired a gun, never really been fishing, and I was not big on animals of any kind when we met.
  10. Despite warnings that you can’t change a spouse, we have changed each other. He now eats Chinese and other ethnic foods that he swore he did not like when we met. I now love dogs and am open to petting a horse (still don’t want to hunt or fish, though).
  11. We’ve both learned not to say “never.” The Lord takes that as a challenge and we have done many things we said we would “never” do. (See my guest post from my 24th Anniversary at Trueagape.net.)
  12. Our biggest relationship challenge may be that he is a morning person and I am a night person.
  13. We also don’t have any hobbies in common and his idea of exercise is cross fit or running and mine is yoga or Pilates.
  14. We are both kind of “homebodies.” Many times when we have an opportunity to go out, we will stay home and watch a movie together.
  15. Which is probably one of the reasons we have not exactly followed the advice about having date nights and time away. It’s not that we never have date nights or take trips without our kids, we just have not done it as much as we probably should have. We are looking forward to that aspect of our empty nest.
  16. One of the best things we have done is not talk about our “issues” with others.
  17. We once tiled a bathroom floor together and did not kill each other or even argue. Ballroom dancing did not go as well, but no one died, so I consider it a success. The teacher did not seem to understand that we were not trying to learn contest-worthy steps. We just didn’t want to look like idiots at weddings. We still look like idiots at weddings.
  18. Some days I’m grouchy and he still puts up with me. I appreciate that.
  19. He works a lot. We did not choose the easiest of careers/family earning arrangements. He is an internal medicine physician. I am a stay-at-home mom. His job is demanding. He is on call one weeknight a week and one weekend a month. He is also on call every 4th holiday. Sometimes it is hard to always be in two cars so he can go to the hospital if he needs to. Sometimes arranging holidays and other events is hard. Sometimes it is hard that once he is home, he pulls up all his charting and lab results on the computer and continues to work. Sometimes it is hard to share so much of his time, but I know his work is partly a ministry and I am blessed to be able to hold down our fort, so he can take care of people in need.
  20. I do all of our finances. I was a CPA in my previous life before children, so I am suited for the job. He trusts me completely. I do our taxes, choose our investments (including everything in his 401K), pay our bills and make most of the decisions about how the money he works so hard for is spent. I appreciate his trust and do my best not to invest or spend stupidly.
  21. We are absolutely not perfect. We argue about ridiculous things, usually when we are tired or otherwise out-of-sorts. Then we cool down, talk it over and make up.
  22. We meant our marriage vows. We’ve never given up on each other.
  23. My husband is my hero. There is nothing he can’t do. I wish I were as talented and smart as he is. I wish I could live on as little sleep as he gets and still be as productive. I wish I had the drive he has. He is absolutely amazing. Sometimes he is like a whirlwind swirling around me. Some day I am going to find out he is either a vampire (they don’t sleep as you recall from the “Twilight” books/movies) or is on speed, but trust me, he is like the Energizer Bunny: he just keeps going when I am long past having any energy.
  24. For some reason he seams to admire me too. He says lots of really nice and kind things to me. He compliments me and provides for me in a way I could never deserve.
  25. A day in our life: This past June we celebrated our 25th anniversary with a trip to Hawaii. Following our usual travel custom, our luggage did not arrive with us. Promises were made by the airline to deliver our bags to us later. Weary from the effects of a 5 hour time change, I fell asleep long before our bags arrived. My husband received our bags around 1 am only to find that my bag was not among them. Of course, the delivery van had already peeled out of the parking lot and no one at the airline was answering the phone. He hopped in our rental car and drove around the island all night long trying to talk to someone at the airport and then finding an all-night pharmacy so he could write new prescriptions for my medicines that I had foolishly packed in my checked luggage. He finished off his joy ride by running in Wal-Mart and purchasing a lovely outfit for me, which fortunately I never had to wear out of the condo.

There have been many days that our relationship has consisted of texting back and forth to figure out who is picking up which child and where. Then there are days where my husband stays up all night while I sleep doing everything in his power to make my next day comfortable. Those are the days I know how a marriage lasts 25 years. Thanks, honey, I love you! Praying for 25+ more!!